90 Days to Covenant

Six phases of discovery and discernment.

The programme supports relationship discovery and discernment. It does not push anyone toward marriage, and it never treats a decision to stop as a failure.

The Phases

Fifteen days at a time.

Phase 1

Days 1–15

Foundation and Identity

  • Personal identity
  • Faith journey
  • Relationship history
  • Emotional readiness
  • Marriage intentions
  • Love languages
  • Personal values

Phase 2

Days 16–30

Communication and Emotional Connection

  • Communication patterns
  • Listening
  • Emotional needs
  • Conflict responses
  • Apologies
  • Boundaries
  • Consistency

Phase 3

Days 31–45

Culture, Family, and Traditions

  • Haitian and Nigerian culture
  • Family roles
  • Respect for elders
  • Extended-family involvement
  • Food and household traditions
  • Weddings
  • Language
  • Cultural stereotypes
  • Building a shared culture

Phase 4

Days 46–60

Real-Life Marriage Compatibility

  • Finances and debt
  • Careers and entrepreneurship
  • Housing
  • Household roles
  • Children and parenting
  • Health
  • Intimacy expectations
  • Faith practices

Phase 5

Days 61–75

Pressure, Conflict, and Boundaries

  • Conflict and disagreement
  • Jealousy
  • Social-media boundaries
  • Opposite-sex friendships
  • Family pressure
  • Long-distance challenges
  • Relocation
  • Trust and red flags

Phase 6

Days 76–90

Discernment and Direction

  • Final compatibility review
  • Relationship strengths
  • Unresolved concerns
  • Personal readiness
  • Shared vision
  • Next-step decision
  • Continued courtship
  • Premarital preparation
  • Respectful closure

Weekly Curriculum

Twelve modules, each built the same way.

Every week includes one short lesson, one individual reflection, one guided couple conversation, one shared activity, one private check-in, one cultural or faith resource, and one completion confirmation.

Week 1

Who Am I?

Week 2

What Have I Learned From Love?

Week 3

How Do I Receive Love?

Week 4

How Do We Communicate?

Week 5

Meet My Culture

Week 6

Family, Traditions, and Expectations

Week 7

What Does Marriage Look Like?

Week 8

Money and Responsibility

Week 9

Children and Home

Week 10

Distance and Relocation

Week 11

Trust, Boundaries, and Intimacy

Week 12

Discernment and Decision

Day 90

A private decision, then a review.

  • Continue intentional courtship
  • Continue with additional coaching
  • Begin premarital preparation
  • Plan an in-person meeting
  • Pause and reflect
  • End the relationship respectfully
  • Request Director guidance before deciding
  • Neither member sees the other's choice until the review is complete

Ninety days begins with one application.

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